..if?

if you do not know yourself, how do you expect to “get to know” anyone else?

and…

if you have not developed a relationship with yourself in a way that allows you to “get to know” YOU, then why would you seek to develop a relationship with someone else?

and…

why would you want to begin a relationship with someone who doesn’t know themselves first, but yet really expect them to “get to know” you and understand you?

these things just dont make sense, but then again they do because often times we choose to define ourselves by the person that we’re in a relationship with and so we “need” that relationship and that person… sigh.

we gotta break this cycle. it hurt us and the other person involved much more than we realize when we try to be with other people before sincerely trying to be with ourselves first…